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ANONYMOUSLY TELL ME A SECRET OR SOMETHING THAT YOU NEED TO GET OFF YOUR CHEST AND KNOW THAT I WON’T JUDGE YOU FOR IT.

I promise. You can trust me.

Happy birthday little angel!
Happy birthday little angel!

A birthday tribute to my ever-endearing and oh so loveable inspiration and role-model, Ms. Demetria Devonne Lovato!

I just wanted to take this time to wish someone very special to me a happy celebration of her 22nd birthday year! I’ll never be able to fully express just how much this girl means to me. But to say the least, she’s made my life for the better, she’s turned me into the person I am, she has inspired me in ways you don’t even know to become a better person, fight through it till the end, and constantly remember to stay strong.

Whether it has been through her music that is laced thick full of very meaningful, precious and impacting messages, or through her words of love, kindness, endurance, strength and fortitude, or through the example she has set not only to me but to millions of souls about the importance of loving yourself despite your insecurities or flaws or weaknesses, or through her advocacy for nurturing your self esteem, self worth and self respect, or through her support in foundations to help with mental illnesses, preventing bullying or suicide, or through the love she shows to not only her supporters, fans, friends, and family but also to her haters, this woman is truly unequaled and remains at such a high level of my respect and admiration.

I will never be able to fully express how much she means to me. Her endearing strength through the unimaginable experiences she has been through thus far in her short life of 22 years is an example the entire world should admire. She is a warrior and a beacon of hope and strength to which I will forever adore.

Happiest of birthdays my dearest angel, Demi Lovato. May this year and the many years ahead of you that have yet to come be filled with strength, love, and continual improvement. You mean the world to me.

Thank you for everything you stand for.

I love you.

Sincerely,

Ohdevonee

« i don't want to live anymore i just don't find a reason i'm so unwanted and unloved » — Anonymous

Ohhh, dearest, precious, treasured Angel.  My heart breaks for you.  My heart breaks because I KNOW that if you could see into the hearts and minds of MANY people, you would KNOW that you ARE wanted and loved!  As human beings we live with a great disadvantage.  We live with the disadvantage of not truly knowing how other people view us, value us, and need us.  Sometimes we convince ourselves that we aren’t important to anyone, or that nobody needs us.  I PROMISE YOU THAT THAT IS NOT TRUE!!!  YOU ARE NEEDED, YOU ARE LOVED!!!  You are one of a kind and NO ONE could replace you and the significance you have on this earth.  You are beautiful!  You matter so much to me and to countless other people.  You have tremendous worth.  You are better than you know!  You are respected and loved.  You are special!  

If you believe that you are unwanted and unloved, you are believing a lie.  You must expel that falsehood from your mind.  Precious Angel, I wish I could take you in my arms, cuddle you like a tender child and remind you of how special and incredible you are.  I don’t know why hard things have hit your life at this time, and why your spirits have plunged into such a dark place, but you must know that there will be light again!  There will be hope!  There will be happiness!  Life is made up of a long and windy road with many abrupt turns and slippery slopes.  This journey of life has ups and downs.  You are currently down, but that means your journey will eventually go back up.  It will!  I promise you!  Depression can come upon us sometimes, but it can also go!  You can feel good again, and when you do, you will realize that you were merely going through a dark and foggy, yet temporary experience.  Your head will rise above the clouds and you will see sunlight and happiness again.
Now, there are no coincidences in life.  You are going through this experience for a reason.  You don’t need to fear it.  You only need to know that there is a higher purpose to this current challenge.  One of the greatest outcomes of this experience will be your ability to help others.  You will have faced the darkest tunnel, but you will know how to lead others through the darkness and into the light.  You will have taken that journey, so you will know first hand how to help them.  Above all, you matter to God.  God’s love for you is unconditional.  Let him comfort you.  Go to him in prayer.  Tell him everything you are feeling.  Let him dry your tears.  His love is as wide as all eternity.  You are his child.  He will always be there for you, even when it seems that no one else is.  You never walk alone.  I believe if you could see them, you would also discover that there a lot of angels surrounding you and supporting you, even though you may feel all alone.  
The greatest message I want to impart to you is that YOU ARE LOVED!  You are NEEDED!  You will yet influence huge groups of people with your goodness.  They need you.  This unique experience you are having will help them more profoundly, because you will be able to empathize with the internal struggles they will face.  This world needs you!  Do not leave it!  I love you—and multitudes of people love you, and multitudes more will love you for what you will eventually do for them.  You are amazing and incredible and only you have the power to do for others what needs to be done.  I love you forever!!!!
(Anonymously tell me something you need to get off your chest and know that I won’t ever judge you! I love you!)

reminder: It is important that both the good experiences we have in life and the bad can help us grow, mature, and improve. We shouldn’t just wait to see the rainbow after a daunting storm, but enjoy the thunderstorms and rain that help to bring it. Embrace every situation you find yourself in. There’s no better way to grow from them than this.

“If you can’t change the circumstances, change your perspective.”
"Look at what you’ve got and make the best of it. It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness." - Proverb
« My sister has been critiquing EVERYTHING. My hair, how I eat, sleep, walk, and even my friends and who I hang out with. She tells me to change my personality like how sensitive I am, how shy I am, everything. Sometimes it seems like all of the personality traits that nobody wants are put into me. Help me please! D: » — Anonymous

I am so glad you wrote!  A lot of people have to deal with what you are having to deal with, with your sister!  We need to talk about this for the sake of not only you, but others who live with a “critic.”

A critic may come in many different forms…the form of a mother or father, brother or sister, grandparent, teacher, husband, wife or friend.  We need to all realize that some people are just wired that way—they are critical!  They think they are doing us a great service by pointing out all of our flaws.  Because they see their intentions as honorable, they often are oblivious to the damage they can do to our self-esteem.  Then when they sense that what they have said has hurt us, they conveniently label us as “too sensitive.”

First of all, when it comes to critics, most of the time you just have to put up an invisible shield.  Sometimes critics will never stop criticizing.  So we have to take actions into our own hands and not LET them hurt us.  When they say something hurtful, we need to counter their remarks by saying something positive to ourselves.  We also need to let our critics know that they are hurting us.  Remind them that nobody is perfect, but that we are all doing the best we can.  Most of all we must NEVER allow ourselves to BELIEVE all of the terrible things they say about us.  We know better!  We know we are amazing, incredible, outstanding people, and nobody can tell us otherwise!

People can criticize for many different reasons.  One reason people criticize is because deep down they are dissatisfied with themselves, or they are afraid of what other people think of them.  They see the negative in themselves, and sometimes because that is too painful to address, they tend to find fault with others.  They think that if they can point out the flaws in others, somehow their flaws aren’t as bad.  They try to be perfectionists with everything and everybody, little realizing that they do more harm than good.

So, my first message is, don’t believe everything the critic in your life says!  Realize they are fighting their own internal battles and they may be using you as an exterior target.  Put up an invisible shield, turn a deaf ear, and go about your life.  You know yourself better than anyone else.  You know your own strengths and weaknesses.  You know what you need to improve and change.  Don’t let others dictate those things for you.

I wish we all had a magic wand and could zap critics from our lives.  We don’t, but we should just make sure that WE never turn into a critic.

Remember, when a critic criticizes you, the problem is THEM, not YOU!  Remember that none of us can please everyone.  While one person may not like the way you do your hair, another person may love it.  While one person may label you as shy, another person may label you as sensitive and caring.  While some people may not like your friends, others may love your friends.  We can’t let one person—our critic—dictate what is or isn’t acceptable.

Above all, my dearest friend, you must never allow yourself to believe that all the personality traits that nobody wants are put into you!  I can see into your heart and believe me you ARE beautiful, inside and out.  I know it!  Your sister is lucky to have you and I have a feeling that with more time and maturity, your sister will see you for the amazing person that you are.  Be patient with her.  Forgive her.  Set a positive example for her.  You are a blessing in her life, and one day she will know it and thank you forever!  I love you!  Thank you again for writing!  You are amazing!

(Anonymously tell me something you need to get off your chest and know that I won’t judge you for it!)

« I stutter and blush stupidly when I'm talking to people outside of online. It really messes up my ability to converse or even just say a simple 'Hi' to somebody I've always wanted to talk to. I hate myself for the comparisons I make, the over-exaggerated worries I worry over, and how much I feel like I talk about myself. Social anxiety isn't such a big deal, but it's destroying me...I don't really know what to do with myself a lot of times. » — Anonymous

Dearest Angel! 

Oh how I love you!  I love you because I know exactly how you feel!  Why is it so easy to feel cool and flawless online, but so hard to talk to people in real life?  Please give yourself a break.  Many, many people feel exactly like you do.  I am naturally a very shy person and it has taken a lot of work and effort for me to know how to break out of my shell.  I say work, because it is work, and it hasn’t come easily for me.  But at the same time, over time it has become easier.  That’s the good news!  With effort, things will get easier for you, too.  I promise!  For people like us, people who feel shy, people who don’t know how to start a conversation, etc.  there is help.  I always suggest the following book because it changed my life.  I only wish I had come across it sooner in life, because once I learned and started applying the techniques and principles in the book, my life changed.  The book is called, “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie.  It is wonderful.  Buy yourself a copy or get it from the library.  It will be one of the best books you will ever read.  Among other things, the book teaches you how to stop focusing on yourself and what others are thinking about you, and teaches you how to focus on others—how to win their friendship.  It offers simple, easy things you can do to start that process.  I am excited for you!  You can learn how to handle your social anxiety, how to start conversations, and how to make friends.  A wonderful new world awaits you!  Be ready for what is about to come your way!  I love you!

(Anonymously tell me something you need to get off your chest and know that I won’t judge you!)

« I don't like sharing my real emotions. They're just unneeded burdens for them, so I'm sorry I'm putting this on you...but I just...I'll start with the all too common thing: I hate myself. I have social anxiety. My home-life is fine, and although I've thought about, I've never actually appealed to anything like suicide or self harm. I compare myself to everybody and anybody in all aspects. There's so many things that I feel, that hurts. Insecurity is a fault, and it is mine. » — Anonymous

Dear Precious Angel,
Thank you for sharing your true inner feelings.  I would NEVER consider it a burden to hear them!  Your feelings are important and I am grateful and honored that you would share them with me.  First of all, please know that you are not alone!  So many people express the same kinds of frustrations that you feel.  We are human, and being human can sometimes be hard.  We all have a tendency to compare ourselves to others.  We tend to notice everyone else’s strengths, but only notice our own weaknesses.  I think you would probably be surprised if you knew how many people look at you and see your strengths!  I know you have them.  Everybody does.  I have to tell you that just from reading your message I can sense that you are a very sensitive and caring person.  I can feel that!  Do you know how many people in the world love a caring and sensitive person?  I am sure you have admirers you don’t even know about.  I truly believe you would be surprised if you knew how many people look up to you and respect you.

I know that in the world we live in today, with all of the social media, it is easy to feel insignificant.  But just remember—EVERYBODY has strengths and everybody has FLAWS.  People don’t post or talk about their weaknesses.  Everybody tries to present a positive front, but we don’t really know what is going on in their hearts and minds.  I love the scripture in the Bible that says, “Man looketh on the outward appearance, but God looketh on the heart.”  I know your heart is beautiful.  I can see that.

If you feel insecure, if you feel that you have social anxiety and you call those things faults, realize that they may be blessings in disguise.  If you feel that way, chances are you are also aware of other people who may seem shy, or who may need a friend.  With your sensitivity, others will be drawn to you because they know you are kind and nonjudgmental of them.  Remember also that all of us blossom at different times.  Some people blossom in life early, others later.  Your day will come.  I see a very bright future for you.  I also know that weaknesses do become strengths.  The world is full of all kinds of people who felt inferior or weak, but who later overcame those feelings.  The same thing will happen to you because you will work harder to make positive changes.  Be patient with yourself as you grow and blossom.  Learning social skills is like learning to ride a bike.  It takes practice, but over time it becomes easy.  One of the best books I ever read that helped me overcome my own social anxiety is called, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.   The book is full of wonderful suggestions on how to make friends, how to carry on conversations, how to get people to like you.  I hope you can get a copy and start reading it.  It will change your life.

Angel, never forget how wonderful you are!  You are beautiful, inside and out, you are sensitive, you are loved and admired, even by people you don’t even know about, and you are making the world a better place.  I can sense that about you, so never forget it!  I love you forever! 

(Anonymously tell me something you need to get off your chest and know that I won’t ever judge you. I love you!)

ANONYMOUSLY TELL ME A SECRET OR SOMETHING THAT YOU NEED TO GET OFF YOUR CHEST AND KNOW THAT I WON’T JUDGE YOU FOR IT.

I promise. You can trust me.

reminder: It is important to remember that sometimes just accepting what is can be the best way to move on. It doesn’t do you any good to dwell on the things you cannot change or have no power over. Some things are bound by fate, design or a higher power that gives meaning and purpose to everything- even when it’s hard to understand in the moment.

“Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgment of the facts of a situation, then deciding what you’re going to do about it.” ~Kathleen Casey Thiesen 

reminder: Remember that you don’t need to numb the sting of a heartbreak or coverup the tear stained cheeks. The ability that we have as humans to feel a whole range of emotions and feelings is such a beautiful thing. Become in touch with every feeling you experience, the good and the bad. They are tender confirmations that you have the capacity to feel anything and everything. It’s a beautiful thing. Never invalidate your emotions.

"Never be ashamed of what you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that you want and to do what makes you happy. We aren’t robots. What makes us exceptional as human beings is that we can have the capacity to feel so many emotions all at once. Even though that can sometimes be so overwhelming it’s still pretty amazing what our bodies can do. Emotions aren’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength and passion." - Demi Lovato
“Don’t be ashamed to weep; ‘tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”Brian Jacques

reminder: Love your for who you are. You don’t deserve anything less. It’s not only our good qualities that make us who we are. Our imperfections also are included in the makeup of ourselves. Trust yourself enough to love yourself. 

"Do not look at yourself with disgust, you are a gift to this earth. You are beautiful, you are a light, an energy, an essence. You are nature herself."
"Life is beautiful… You are worthy of it. Never devalue yourself. Never forget how beautiful you really are. People in certain situations can sometimes make us feel we aren’t good enough by society’s standards. But it’s natural to feel that way. You just need to know how to find your way out of that negative place. Remind yourself that you are beautiful exactly the way you are." - Demi Lovato
« you could post some reminders sometimes, like demetriasassy have been doing, it would be great to see both of my faves doing this. love ya » — Anonymous

I would absolutely love to! demetriasassy is such an angel, and that’s such a great idea! 

Also, if you’d like, my tag under /important is filled with uplifting things that might interest you! 

Love you angel! xxx